Thoughts – Interracial Relationships

I remember posting something earlier in regards to Internet dating sites in relation to African-American females. There are some studies that show that black females are very open to meeting and dating people outside of their race and are quick to reply to messages that they receive. However, when they send messages to people they are interested in, it is rare for them to receive one back. It also appears that white males are pretty crappy when it comes to messages and communication overall.

This is just one example in regards to interracial dating. I am a black female, in case no one could tell. I’ve dated outside of my race several, if not most, times in my life. However, the majority of my significant others have all been white males (I’ve dated 1 asian male, 1 hispanic, 3 black and 1 male of mixed race). Now I have nothing against white males. I have nothing against any race at all, really. But I find it strange that mostly white and black males seek me out, if they even seek me out to start with.

I’m starting to think that there is still a stigma against dating outside of your race. Most usually “Stick to your own kind” or they go with a certain race that they are often led to believe is acceptable to be with by either personal or culture standards.  However, I have noticed that with my generation and on, there is an open and accepting view on interracial relationships. It is also noted that these are only seen in major cities and state capitals for most states. In my current city, it is a rare occurrence to see an interracial couple, where as in my state’s capital, it is normal.

Most wouldn’t consider this something to write about and must probably have negative and positive views on such a topic. But, since I have an analytical mind, I am one to ponder about such topics that just so happen to affect me personally. I always had the idea that emotion and love has no boundaries, and in that list of boundaries, race counts. I’ve listed myself on online dating sites before and the trend that I have noticed is that the majority of compatibilities are towards white males. However, this can indeed be because of the location, common interests and other factors. That is the problem with some online dating sites. Location can actually be the main factor.

I wonder if this trend will continue to either improve or digress over time.

Thoughts – Are Black Women Intimidating?

Interesting Dating Site

I posted something on a dating site called OkCupid. I’m sure some people have heard of this site, so I may get mixed views and opinions about it. But, here’s what I posted:

Having read the blog post for OkCupid about ethnicities, browsed the forums viewing opinions from other black women, and views from black males and different ethnic backgrounds, this question comes to mind: Is it intimidating to be a black woman on an online dating site?

I am currently listed as seeing someone, so as far as dating goes, that’s out of the question for me. But even for just meeting some interesting people or making friends, it seems very hard for a black female to do so.

In case this question comes to someone’s mind, I’ve dated males from many different backgrounds and ethnicities, so I’m not ethnocentric. When seeing matches, I’ve been paired up with White males more than any other ethnicity on this site. That doesn’t surprise me seeing as how I am currently dating a White male and have been with White males for a long period of time.

There are plenty of black women who appear to be very intelligent and well-rounded in subjects, but have stated that they have had no luck when contacting males or males look at their profile but do not contact them.

I’m not looking to date anyone at the moment, but I was curious as to why its so difficult for black women to find people online. But, then there was a guy who gave me a good answer:

kerep:

An ugly woman, a fat woman, a psycho woman, a many-childrened woman, is intimidating, no matter what her racial or ethnic background is. I am glad you’re not a racist or ethnocentric, you can understand this.

The more gorgeous a woman is, the more she can get away with, for less work and more disregard by others to her shortcomings, personality- or lifestyle-wise. Try to pin this to race or ethnicity, and you’ll fail.

I failed to realize this.

People are just freakin’ picky, really. Unless they’re just looking for sex, but that’s really what it boils down to.